The other day I was having a conversation with one of my good friends over a glass of crown. As we began telling our war stories about different women a very interesting topic came up. The money shot! For those women who are not familiar with the term, go to your closest male friend and ask him to define the money shot. As another close buddy of ours joined the conversation he posed a question: Is the money shot an illegal procedure to take with wifey? As simple of a topic as it may seem, this is a very a difficult question.
My friend and I disagree on said topic; he is totally opposed to the money shot with wifey. His argument is that the money shot is for girls such as Kapri Styles and Pinky not for a respectable girl he would call his wife. In his claims his wife shouldn’t be subject to such “disrespect” or “tarnishing” as he put it. My rebuttal; well is the money shot a part of your routine sex life? As he inhaled his cigar and responded… yes. So my question remained, why wouldn’t you want to incorporate the money shot into your sex life with wifey? The discussion brought about a larger question to mind – Why would you want someone as your partner/wife if you could not express yourself 100% with them in the sexual realm? As my divorced dad says “don’t marry someone if they’re not going to f^*$ you and s%&k you the way you want ?” Yea, I know, listening to the advice of a divorced man on the topic of relationships probably isn’t the best thing to do, but hey he obviously knows what doesn’t work. Strangely enough, I’ve began to live by that statement, not singularly, but if marriage puts a halt to my “playa” days why would I end that with someone who is not willing to take it (our sex life) to the next level? The money shot is definitely next level.
So ladies, what do you think about the money shot, is it acceptable or not? Am I the only person who places sex life near the top of my relationship totem pole?
- S
Obviously I have little experience but:
Totally acceptable.
Nothing that both of you are ok with should be deemed “disrespect” when it comes to sex.
If y’all are close, and are ok with exploring and enjoying each other’s sexuality there should be no boundaries other than the ones you set.
Anything goes – but again I might be the wrong person to ask
Cuz I’d try anything twice.
Who wrote this lol…”playa days” HAHA!!
I would think being able to perform that act would have a lot to do with the level of comfort the two people would have with each other. I do think its disrespectful for a girl to allow a guy that she has random dealings to perform that act on her, but i feel if you are with a person that your sexual views should be matching. If that is something that a guy/girl feels he likes during sex, there should be similar views or a willing to compromise. Some girls may be “wifeable” and just simply be freaks. Doesn’t make the act disrespectful then. It just depends on your view point. Now if you want a girl thats wifeable but has rules and regulations in the bedroom of what and what not to do… thats completely fine as well.
Yes it can be thought of as nasty but honestly I feel that as a woman I want things that I know my partner probably has to think twice about but he would also rather I communicate what I want with him before I ever start day dreaming about it with someone else. No I don’t think doing it on the regular is for me but on special occassions or role play then why not? If he respects you they wouldn’t have you doing anything you’re not compfortable with all the time anyway. Our business is our business and I need to ensure that mine is satisfied at all times. That includes trying new things and fufilling your partners fantasies. Even if its not all the time shit try it..that means a lot to be open minded.
In my opinion, if a guy’s first reaction is to pull out and cum on my face, I then know how he would view me. It’s not something I would think is for the “wifey” but if she is down for it, then go for it all. I would think a guy would want for a chick to swallow more than just having his sum sit on her face. I really don’t see the point in the “money shot”. And from how guys use it in conversation, it seems like they just do it on the chicks that don’t mean anything to them.
At first I wasn’t going to comment but then I thought shoot why not express myself I’m comfortable with myself sexually. Personally I don’t think taking “the money shot” is a degrading thing but I also wouldn’t just do it with anybody. If I’m with someone in a serious RELATIONSHIP I don’t hold back I come full force with what I have to bring to the table and that includes the bedroom. If your with someone and you feel too ashamed to do something with them sexually than you aren’t comfortable, and if you aren’t comfortable than why are you even there? You should be able to express yourself sexually with your partner and not have to worry about holding back or them judging you. I mean when you look for a partner in someone don’t you look for someone who has the same sexual interest as you anyway? If you and your partner aren’t adventurous than that’s cool that’s what you all like but just because you aren’t into something doesn’t mean its degrading it just means its not for you. If I cant try new things with someone and do off the wall stuff sometimes than in my opinion your boring and you get stuck in a routine and from there I wont even want to be with you. Sex is FUN ppl and you and your partner should be able to go all out with one another and not think twice about how you look when your doing it or how your being perceived when your doing it. So like I said the money shot is not degrading but at the same time you cant let every Tom, Dick, and Hank give you one either.
-KMJ
I agree with your friend. I feel as if it is demeaning and degrading. As Ashley said I really don’t see how a person (either party) can get off from that. I dont view it as poetic and I dont view it as being able to strengthen the connection between the two significant others. Ive only heard it in degrading terms like men finding it funny. A “power move” if you will. So in my opinion, save that for homegirl down the street. Not the mother of your children.
I can see how its deamed degrading and things but regular people have kinky thoughts..currently I’m dating someone who I thought was a virgin when I met him. But even he has kinky thoughts. I agree it doesn’t directly ‘strengthen’ a relationship but if it really is something that he wants regardless of why and its a solid meaningful relationship then why not be open to step out of the box…when you get married I’m pretty sure your partner is going to want to engage in something that is wild..and it is special because they will only be doing it with you. I respect the honesty of at least letting me know deep into our relationship what is on your mind. I’ve known my guy for over a year and he’s just now compfortable with even letting me know what sexual pleasures that he is actually interested in. I can respect that and regardless its up to you if you choose to engage in it. But yea i want to know because I dnt want him considering it with someone else.
I see that act as equal to someone spitting in your face. You people should be using condoms anyway so therefore theres no need for the “shot” to go anywhere else but down the toliet. Lol…I dont believe where a guy decides to “finish” has any impact on someones sex life. If you are getting “$**ked & f****d” (as u say) properly then where or how u finish shouldnt even matter at that point. My question is did you make the girl orgasam ? #questionthatneedsanswers
@Tay
Spitting in someone’s face is culturally and insult.
But some people like that shit, and some people like being pissed on, and some people like a myriad of other things.
Am I supposed to stifle a fetish or desire based on the way you’ve traditionally viewed it? That’s not how a sexy sexual relationship develops or functions.
Equating semen – the product of a labor of love
with SPIT – a product of malice (in the case of spitting on someone)
is an entirely different perceptual issue that I won’t get into.
If this is someone you love and care about, he respects you. What is said or done in the bedroom out of arousal or kink is not a reflection of that respect. Calling a woman a ‘bitch’ or ‘whore’ during roleplay or whatever is very sexy to some people. Obviously not acceptable in other situations.
What you’re comfortable with is what you’re comfortable with, but when it comes to sex, creating brightline boundaries is often not the best course of action.
‘You people’ no one asked for your judgements. As well as you can wear a condom and take it off. Spitting is rude and disrespectful but in real life if your partner one day brings it up you need to be open to discuss it and understand it takes courage to even talk about it. You can choose to say no but to say that’s like you spitting on me is a tad much.
I would have to agree with han on this one. If you and your significant other are close enough to have the conversation and are both comfortable with exploring each other’s sexuality the boundaries should not exist unless they are placed by the two of you. I think that it is perfectly fine if you choose you do not want to engage in that activity but I also feel it is perfectly fine if you do. The choice is yours to make. Whether you feel it’s degrading or not is your opinion, that doesn’t make it right and it doesn’t make it wrong, it just makes it your opinion.
Also I liked what lola said, I would rather my bf or husband to communicate his fantasies with me because I damn sure don’t want him considering it with someone else. I never would want him to feel uncomfortable to tell me what he desires to explore behind closed doors.
Another interesting topic by theratpack
#TeamSaltyEyes
I think that communication is a big part in all of this. If there is something that you’re inquiring about, by all means talk about it. Don’t wait until you’re in a relationship and find yourself unhappy because your partner isn’t satisfying you fully. If there are certain qualities that you want in a person then make sure they have those certain qualities in sex. You want to be on the same page in all aspects not just halfway. Personally, no, that’s not for me and I have no problem with saying so. You should be able to discuss what you like, don’t like and what you’re are/aren’t willing to explore. Then it’s up to you and your partner to decide if that’s something they can roll with or without…COMMUNICATE!
Agreed. That conversation is often awkward before sex.
AND women tend to lie about how ‘freaky’ they are – so that creates an issue.
What I’ve found helpful is constant consent and reassurance *during* the act. Then conversations about it afterwards.
But then again –
women do not take kindly to being told “I’m sorry, but you don’t satisfy me sexually” or “We just aren’t sexually compatible” because then “Niggas ain’t shit” “they only want one thing” blah blah blah. It’s this eternal quagmire of sex and communication and romantic relationships.
I guess I don’t have an answer – I agree communication is super important.
But it’s only effective when Women realize that sex and sexual concerns for a healthy relationship are not the only thing but VERY valid,
and when Men equally realize that personal autonomy is important, and that women need to feel cared for and respected.
The gap in understanding, it seems, is in the unwillingness of either party to yield.
If u find a money shot degrading then u r being TOO DAMN BOUGIE in the bedroom! Fuck outta here wit all that. If my girl dont wana do it… another one will. Straight up.
Thats most women’s problem tho, they wana call themselves “freaks” and wana “turn they man out” and yada yada yada.. but when its time to really get down and dirty then those b the first ones who b like “oh hell nah u aint cummin on my face, what i look like, a hoe or somethin?”…. but then that night b the same chick lovin a dude thats gettin pleased by someone else.
smh… wake up.
i beat it up, i pull out, i cum on your face, u walk to the bathroom, u WASH your face… and then we proceed to enjoy round 2.
whats the problem?
THIS IS THE PROBLEM ——-> you tryna b too damn bougie in the bedroom!!!!!
ladies, if u have ever sucked a penis in your life then u r one step away from his semen being on your chin…
and WHATS THE DIFFERENCE between me nuttin in ur mouth or on your face?! oh u dont wana clean up the mess? oh ok… so u being bougie AND lazy now?!
WHUCK! girl bye
Well the pause in between rounds might be an actually issue for those with lower libidos.
I say it’s fine for a grand finale.
and this whole thing made me laugh very hard.
@your girls best friend your comment isn’t realistic. How would u feel if your gf had hella dudes Nutting on her face before you. Also your comment makes girls question doing that because you are assuming its a given when its not. I wouldn’t blame anyone for never thinkin a money shot is ok after reading your ignorant comment. No disrespect.
What a girl did before shouldn’t matter I don’t think.
I agree – nothing in sex is a given
But everything in sex could definitely be found somewhere.
Honestly I just didn’t like his comment lol. Presented in a way that would not make girls be open lol..I’m done in my feelings though..carry on good people
The guy who said he doesn’t want to do it to his wife is an idiot and chances are another guy who just used her for sex already did it to her anyway. If you can’t be sexually unrestricted with the person you’re in love with, in my opinion, you shouldn’t be married. It’s not disrespectful if you love the person and that’s what you like so they do it to please you. And if you think that act is disrespectful you need to reevaluate the way you’re treating the people you’re choosing to sleep with.
After reading all of these comments I have to first say LMAO!
Now back to the issue at hand. Ladies, when you’re with your man you need to be able to discuss what’s ok and what isn’t ok in the bedroom. If he is fond of the money shot, discuss it!!!
Don’t assume that you’re a mega slut because the question is posed. Your sex life is something that you’re supposed to have fun with while with that special person!
As for me, I’m not in one of those committed relationships so a money shot is nowhere in my future. Will I try it with my husband? Most likely if he’s up for it.
But remember its YOUR sex life. Who cares what society thinks? They ain’t gotta know!!
dat.
I recently had a discussion with a signifcant other about this topic. I just don’t find the act attractive in any way, shape, or form. I am comfortable with my sexuality, and I am open to trying new things when I am comfortable and have that mutual understanding with my partner, but the Money Shot is a no go. I agree with ol girl who said it is like a “power move”. Most dudes I know only discuss the act in a degrading way. Quite frankly, I just don’t want anything flying, oozing, or dripping on my face! lol. I wouldn’t squirt in a dude’s face, so don’t nut in mine. I don’t knock any girl who is open to it though… I AINT THE ONE lol …call me bougie if you want. =]
fellas, would you compromise wit ya girl and nut somewhere else? What’s so special about getting off in a girl’s FACE?
PAUSE
She squirts.
all other comments are invalid.
LOL no but really
If you had a fetish for squirting in someone’s face, and he was wit it,
would you consider the compromise?
But I can only explain the psychology behind my own fetishes, but i’m sure there are tons of reasons people find it sexy.
The comments > The post.
Thanks for the laughs, ladies.
*curtseys*
First of all, this convo is effing hilarity! Now, I must say I didn’t know what a “money shot” was but I was able to draw conclusions lol. I’m perfectly fine with the act as long as its with a significant other. When you’re in love with someone you should be completely open in EVERY aspect. And sex is very important in a relationship and it should be fun. Maybe I’m an exception tho because I will try anything once
DAT!
Me too Lo!
And I find this funny because I’m obviously a poonani predator, and I’m not even disgusted by this concept.
I’m still trying to see what’s gross with fulfilling fetishes with someone you care about, if it doesn’t harm you.
I don’t get it.
HOL UP HOL UP HOL UP!!!! stop the conversation, stop the got dang convo!!
@m.dot soooooo…. u a squirter? O_O
BWAHA my thoughts exactly
Bottom line: what makes him happy makes me happy.
exactly.
but I think some folks (capricorns) are just natural givers in the sexual experience.
pleased by others’ pleasure
Yo. Can I say that Yo GirlsBestfriend is hilarious and his post turned me on some.
*shrugs*
BUT off of what m.dot said I don’t think most guys would be opposed to squirting? But thts just my opinion.
And touché @midwestlolita! And @hjaybee
Did you just offer your face to Yo Girl’s Bestfriend?
No judgment.
LOL well. If there’s no judgement. Jk jk jk jk.
DEAD -_- @hjaybee
I used to be a prude. But that gets you nowhere. Lol. Open up people. YOLO lmao
*dims lights* I’m say doe
sayin**
These comments are low key porn.lol
The Money shot isn’t the issue, either the chick is down or not… most time when u put in work she liable to let u do anything!
Just don’t mess around a lose the Skeet… be wondering where it went, and find it on the top right corner of the head board a day later lla
LMAO!!! YOU PEOPLE ARE NUTS!! …. Literally lol
These comments are HILARIOUS!!!! At the end of the day “wifey” should be down for anything && everything that’s just between her and her man.
Pow!